IT IS NOT OKAY TO BULLY OR BLAME THE VICTIM…EVER!

This is exactly what I told Crime Watch Daily, “It’s not okay to blame victims, or to bully victims, they have had enough pain already.  Morgan always conducted her life here on earth with grace, compassion, understanding and love…and in honor of her, we will never allow these type of people to distract us from our goal, which is, #Justice For Morgan.”

Victim-blaming can be seen as an outright attack on the victims or co-victims of a crime, or anytime someone decides to question what a victim could have done differently to prevent that crime, even if that accuser doesn’t completely grasp what he/she is doing with their actions, that person is participating, to some degree, in the culture of victim-blaming.  This has been happening, not only to me and my family, but to Morgan’s good friends as well, for years now.  Sometimes it has been as minor as “questioning” why we did or did not do something, and sometimes it is an outright attack of everyone that is in support of getting justice for Morgan.

Please know that everyone who knew and loved Morgan, has at one time or another, blamed themselves…they have all verbalized to me that there must have been something they could have done to help stop her stalking, or save her that night, before she lost her life.  As her parents, Steve and I have agonized and asked the Universe, just like other parents who have lost their child to an unexpected violent death, why are we still alive, and she is gone?…we would rather be the ones gone, we would have given our lives in exchange for her life…but we were not given that choice.  and it hurts more than words can express.

Here is another interesting reason some people may become victim blamers:  “I think the biggest factor that promotes victim-blaming is something called the just world hypothesis,” says Sherry Hamby, a professor of psychology at the University of the South and founding editor of the APA’s Psychology of Violencejournal. “It’s this idea that people deserve what happens to them. There’s just a really strong need to believe that we all deserve our outcomes and consequences.”  These type of people want to hold the victim and/or co-victims responsible for the consequences of the crime.

There are many reasons people engage in victim-blaming…but the reason really doesn’t matter, the fact is, victim-blaming and bullying is WRONG!

Part Two of the Crime Watch Daily 4 Part Series on Morgan’s Death

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The Sheriff’s Supplemental Reports

 This is what you will see, starting with Supplemental #1 from the Garfield County Sheriffs.

I am slowly going back through my old posts on this blog, that are from my Timeline, in order to add the Sheriff’s Supplemental Reports… – it will be a slow process so please bear with me, as it is upsetting to relive this over, and over again…but I will.

As I update the posts, if you would like to read those posts again, the ones that are dated, starting with “Day One of Morgan’s Stalking,” you will be able to see a much more complete picture of what was happening back then, and what was promised, but not happening, in this stalking case.  There were many mistakes made on the part of the sheriffs, and at this point I can only hope that they have learned from those mistakes, and will change their protocol in future cases.  We all make mistakes, BUT if we don’t learn from those mistakes, in order to get it right in the fight for justice, then the only thing that comes to my mind is that ego is more important than helping victims…and that is so not right!

When I woke up this morning, I walked around the house and I kept saying out loud, “I want you here Morgan, I want to share the magic of Christmas with you again.”  My tears kept falling, the pain in my chest was crushing, and then I said out loud, “I know you can’t be here, but I just want you here so badly sweetheart.”  Again, I know we can never bring Morgan back, which is my greatest wish, but maybe, just maybe, the lessons learned from her case can help save another innocent victim of stalking.

My wish for the New Year is to have Morgan’s case finally opened, investigated, and arrests made, as there is NO statute of limitation on murder.  I will continue my work as a Victim’s Advocate, working with the families of Missing Person & Cold Case Homicide cases, but every single day I still imagine what it would be like to finally have #Justice4Morgan – because she deserves it and we are still waiting for it come.

 

Be Informed…Not Just Opinionated

When I saw this quote, with the chess pieces, I just had to share it, “Try being informed instead of just opinionated”….it really does feel much better when you know what you say is really taken from facts, and not just from listening to some over-blown person on the web, that has no real knowledge of the crime, and there are many of them.

And here I go talking about Morgan’s stalking and murder case again.  Why?  Because I am her mother, a mother who lost her precious youngest child to someone’s sick obsessions, jealousy, and sexual fantasies – it’s not right, it needs to be stopped – all of our daughter’s should be safe, and allowed to live their life to the fullest, not cut short by some pathetic criminal, who remains free, because no one wants to use the money or manpower to investigate.

When a person is stalked it can be lethal, as it was in our daughter Morgan’s case.  Don’t take my word for it – read and investigate what the “experts” say.  

Laura Richards, BSc, MSc, Asc. IA-IP, MBPsS, is someone who is trying to make a difference for victims of stalking.  http://www.laurarichards.co.uk/laura-richards-work/  Laura is the Founder and Director of Paladin, the world’s first National Stalking Advocacy Service.  She also the co-creator and host of Real Crime Profile podcast with Jim Clemente, retired FBI Profiler and Lisa Zambetti, Director of Casting for CBS’s ‘Criminal https://soundcloud.com/real-crime-profile

Laura is a renowned international expert on domestic violence, stalking, sexual violence and risk assessment.  Quote from Laura, “If stalking is not a priority in your local policing plan or counted – police will continue to fail to record it or be trained to understand it.”

I want #Justice4Morgan, and I will absolutely not stop working towards justice for her until justice is served.

Crime Watch Daily 4-Part Video about Morgan’s Case…

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To see the 4-part series that Crime Watch Daily did about our daughter, Morgan Ingram, please go to: Crime Watch Daily.com website